There are people in our lives, best friends, family members, and significant others, that we accept no matter what. We accept their dislikes, their likes, their opinions (even if we disagree), their aspirations, their past, and their faults. And we love them for all that they are. No matter what.
I recently read Marilyn Manson’s autobiography, Long Hard Road Out of Hell, and there was something Manson said that I’ve been chewing on ever since the words jumped off the page: “Not only are love and hate such closely related emotions, but it’s a lot easier to hate someone you’ve cared about than someone you never have.” I knew the statement to be true, but I couldn’t quite explain why, until today. I can’t just hate my neighbor. I don’t really know my neighbor, and my neighbor knows little about me. No intense emotions exists, and no one is vulnerable. But, I realized, that if someone you love hurts you; it is much easier to be angry and hate them. But why?
I think it’s easier to hate a best friend who ruins a friendship, or hate a boyfriend or girlfriend who treats you badly, or hate a family member that walks out on you because it’s easier than accepting the fact that no matter what you will always love that person. No matter how much we sacrifice for the people we love, how much we hurt because of them; love is forever. And with love comes a need to care, loyalty, honesty, and vulnerability, and, in most cases, it hurts less to not feel all those things; rather, the easier path is hating the person you love, or at last convincing yourself that you actually hate the person.