It’d Be So Much Easier…

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That moment when your stomach drops, you can’t stop shaking, and tears sting the back of your eyes, and all of a sudden you wonder what went wrong?  A breakup.  Those are typically incredibly difficult to do, not just for the the person losing someone special but also for the person calling off the relationship.

Usually, we don’t fall in love with a high school sweetheart, get married, start a life, and end up in rocking chairs next to one another overlooking the beach after we’ve grown old.  The average person will be in and out of various relationships, hurt people’s feelings, get hurt themselves, experience lust, fall in love, fall out of love, find someone new, etc.  It’s quite an emotional task, and the sad part is, what if one never finds love?  What if all the searching, heartache, butterflies, kisses, promises, are to no avail?

I’ve been doing some thinking, and wouldn’t it just be easier if we all came with a code?  A mix of letters and numbers that floated above our heads, and in order to find “the one” we’d just have to find someone to match our code?  This way you’d know, going into a relationship, if the person didn’t match your code, it wouldn’t end well and you could prepare for the worst.  You could still have flings, but you’d know you wouldn’t fall in love and no one would actually get hurt because the codes don’t match.  And once you found your match, you’d have your happy ending, and you’d know it.  There wouldn’t be as much heartache and you wouldn’t find “the one” too late after you married the wrong person for you.

Yes, it would be a tad robotic and much like a videogame hunt, but wouldn’t it make things easier?  Let’s face it, breaking up with someone, telling someone you’re not into them, asking someone out, getting rejected, letting yourself be vulnerable, it’s daunting and can end terribly.  Wouldn’t it just be easier to avoid the conflicts?  That way no one would get hurt.

First Dance Songs

This is a completely random post for a multitude of reasons, the number one being that I am not about to get married.  I do not even have a boyfriend, and frankly I don’t even know if I’ll ever get married; nonetheless, still being the hopeless romantic that I am, every so often I hear a song and think to myself, ‘Wow, if I ever get married, I want that song to play as my first dance as a married couple.’  So, I thought I’d share the list.  Mind you, these songs will not be found in bridal magazines for being the top romantic songs, these are ‘different’ wedding songs.  They’re romantic, but they aren’t necessarily all mushy gushy ballads nor are they classic first dance songs.  Like me, I hope you hear weddings bells when you listen to each of these songs, though:

 

1.  Goo Goo Dolls’ “Come To Me” : The song is all about a couple and incredibly sweet and with a bridge like: Take my hand in this empty room/You’re my girl, and I’m your groom, how can it not be the most perfect first dance song at a wedding?

 

2.  Hoobastank’s “Lucky” : You make me feel lucky as I can be….again the lyrics of this song make it so fitting.

 

3.  Barry Louis Polisar’s “All I Want Is You” : Many of you will recognize this cute song from the movie Juno, but this acoustic rhyming song is not only adorable but definitely appropriate: All I want is you, will you be my bride/
Take me by the hand and stand by my side.

 

4.  Yellowcard’s “Dear Bobbie” : Now, if you read the lyrics it may seem a tad bittersweet.  An older gentleman talks in the beginning, middle, and end of the song about he and his wife and their wonderful life together.  It’s an incredibly sweet song, but the chorus is as follows: Because when I die/Then I die loving you.  The sentiment rings true, but usually weddings are about happy beginnings; I guess this one’s about preference and how one would want their first dance to kick off the next journey of their lives together.

 

5.  Plain White T’s “1,2,3,4” : Such a catchy, cute, pop laden love song.

 

6.  Pierce the Veil’s “Kissing In Cars” : This one I can guarantee is on no one’s list because it’s about a car crash.  BUT, I am in love with this band, and this song is very gorgeous and slow and despite the hints of despair it does have a wonderful message about love, so it works for me.

 

7.  Hall & Oates’ “You Make My Dreams” : Because the person you’re marrying should make your dreams come true and who doesn’t enjoy a bouncy song that insists you smile?  Your first dance is a happy moment, so I like it.

 

8.  Sum 41’s “With Me” : I know this may be surprising because when I hear Sum 41 I think of their angst-filled jam, “Fat Lip.”  But this slow song is truly moving and the song speaks of holding onto a moment, and a wedding is a pretty damn good moment to hold on to.

 

9.  Jimi Hendrix’ “Angel” : Solid guitar and breathtaking lyrics, what more could you want?

 

10.  Led Zeppelin’s “Stairway To Heaven” : The classic ballad, ’nuff said.